When I was younger I loved any magical story and had my nose constantly in a book. I watched Bewitched with Samantha twitching her nose and creating instant magic, clearing all problems and making everything work and laughed, loving every mad moment of it. My daughters grew up with Harry Potter and films like Practical Magic ,Hocus Pocus and The Witches .They loved fairy tales and when young used to collect sticks from our walks to make magic wands and would spend many happy hours later making potions from rose petals and water, which I would have to fling out and refresh as they slept to keep the illusion and prevent them from seeing the petals turn translucent and the water brown. Everything had a magic potential from pebbles and shells collected on the beech to the cats whisker fallen on the floor. They believed anything was possible and at that stage anything was. When they went to school, they learned that it was not always possible to achieve everything they wanted not every exam was passed and not every person they met wanted to be their friend. At night we would talk through their experiences and about any disappointments but would always end up laughing about the nicer funnier aspects of the day and felt happier.
I was in the fortunate position of being able to stop working when my youngest daughter was three and my oldest had just started High School to spend more time at home with them. I loved that time when the older girls came home and we would sit and chat before starting homework or going to any after school clubs. I always made sure that all the daily chores were done and that I had peace to sit and talk. We would light a nice scented candle, have a hot chocolate and they would off load their day before going on to do their various activities. It was magical and we all loved it.
When I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP for short I learned the powerful magic of words and realised that by sitting chatting we were creating a sort of magical cleansing experience. By setting time aside to listen and talk to each other we managed to get rid of all the days clutter, clear any negative thoughts and start afresh. We were using the most powerful magical tool any witch, wizard or fairy ever had, the power of our words.
Words can uplift you or crush your mood and each of us has the power through our words to give happiness to others or to remove it and often we do so without being aware of the devastating effects our words have. Even if you are not trying to be cruel or nasty a thoughtless word can wound.
I have learned that by becoming aware of the language I use and by taking time to listen to my own thoughts and feelings as well as those of the people around me ,I can choose to create my own sort of magic good or bad and in doing so make my life happier or worse depending upon my choice. We all have that power and we must all take personal responsibility for it.
As Mahatma Gandhi said “Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony”