In days gone by people used to hang garlic around their doors and windows and even around their necks to ward of vampires and keep them safe from harm .The very thought of one being in the neighbourhood was enough to strike fear and terror into all the nearby inhabitants. They brought death and made the dead rise with their hypnotic power and thirst for blood. They were the subject of folklore and horror stories. No good ever came of being near one.
How times have changed. Today mention vampire and immediately young girls swoon and think of Twilight and True Blood .Sexy, strong, passionate and in many cases loving. They are no longer the Horror section but romance and action category. Young guys would like to be like them, young women would like to be with them. I am talking about the actors of course not the real thing. After all Vampires do not exist do they?
Well let’s go to Wikipedia the font all knowledge today! It has a definition of a vampire as: Vampires are mythological or folkloric beings who subsist by feeding on the life essence (generally in the form of blood) of living creatures, regardless of whether they are undead or a living person/being.
Now that is much more like the Vampires I hear about from clients and no my name is not Van Helsing. I do not hear about sexy, misunderstood vampires, who just happen to suck blood. Well we all have our problems! I hear about the normal, yes normal, everyday, run of the mill ones who take from people some of their life essence or to use a better word energy.
Unlike the Vampires in Films, Television or books we have no discernible way to identify them and you will not know who they are until they first strike. They are ordinary people like you and I and have no immortal powers or strengths. They may or may not be gorgeous and sexy or they might be plain and uninteresting but they all behave in the same way. They steal your energy, they drain you and leave you feeling down, fed up or depressed. Some of them do it quite consciously and derive pleasure from it, for others it is quite unintentional, just a learned behaviour and a way of getting energy for themselves to get through the day. Whatever their reason the end result is always the same, they leave and you feel depleted. Fear not though as there is no need to rush out and buy a ton of garlic or surround yourself with silver and please no wooden stakes, unless you want to spend a very long time in jail.
There is a much simpler more effective method of ridding yourself of this pest and their effect. Just recognize what it is that they are attempting to do and laugh or walk away. If stuck in an office, lift or worse in a relationship with one, (although, hopefully not a relationship of your personal choice).Why would you choose that? You might be unable to avoid them, perhaps just by coincidence of birth, for we cannot always guarantee the behaviour of every member of our family, perhaps because they are a neighbour or a member of a group you are in!
If you find yourself in this situation and unable to just walk away, then a good trick is to imagine that you are surrounded by a large, flexible sphere of whatever colour you feel makes you secure and happy. Then you imagine that you can step inside that sphere and when you do only love and positivity can pass through. Anything negative bounces right off and will not affect you. Do not take personally anything that they say. It may sound very personal but it is just their attempt to get a reaction from you and by obtaining a reaction they also receive your energy. I know that this can be hard to do but it must be done. As soon as you respond to defend, deny or attack they have your energy and will keep coming back for more. It becomes a vicious, draining circle which is self defeating. Remember they are energy vampires they thrive on this. The more you react the more energy they receive.
Another effective method of dealing with this energy stealer is to respond positively. Strange but true, positive responses negate negative ones and funnily enough leave you feeling happier, energy intact. Let me give you a few examples of this. You may arrive at the office or be walking down the street, at a party anywhere really, feeling happy and wearing your favourite shirt/blouse/outfit. You are filled to the brim with happy thoughts and energy or” buzzing” as my young daughter says. In comes the energy vampire, they are on the prowl, feeling low and see you happy and full of energy so naturally they are instantly attracted to you and move in for the steal “Are you feeling okay today, you look a little tired” might be the energy stealing statement of choice, or it might be “I was going to buy that outfit but decided against it” or something like “ I heard so and so was not very happy with you” Whatever it is that they choose to say you now have a choice to make. Let them steal your energy and spend the rest of the day/evening worrying about how you are looking, whether you are in fact feeling tired, maybe even rush out and buy some vitamins. You can feel anxious about what so and so said even get angry and upset or you can smile and say to each one “No I feel absolutely fantastic today, had such a wonderful evening last night,”, “I am so glad you didn’t buy it, I suit this one and the outfit you have on suits you so we are both winners” or “Did they, well at least they know who I am” or any variation of these that doesn’t involve a negative or a fist fight. If you keep repeating positive statements you will find that in no time at all they have stopped trying to feed on you and moved on.
The plus in this method is also that there is a strong likelihood that you will soon find yourself surrounded by likeminded positive people who will reinforce your energy levels making you invincible to any sneak energy attack.
Whatever your decision it is always important to remember that the only way someone can steal your energy from you is if you let them. By changing how you react to such a situation you might also save a few souls on the way as they watch, learn and change their behaviour to match yours.
It is also worth noting that we can all be energy vampires, even the best intentioned of us can at our weakest moments resort to taking energy from others. If we are angry or upset it can be the first thing we do without thinking. Perhaps by learning to recognize when it is being done to us and taking control of it, we can better control ourselves and stop ourselves from doing it to others.